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| Wed, 10-17-2007 - 3:54pm |
I moved in with my boyfriend who has two young children (ages 9 & 12)He has his children every other day and every other weekend. One month after I moved in, his work schedule changed. He now works late everyday and Saturdays. My kids are grown. I am now responsible for taking care of his kids...taking them to practices, ballgames,etc. the mother of the children will not help with them if it is not her "day" to have them. I love him....I just don't want to go back to taking care of young children.
We have been dating for about a year and a half. I moved in 6 months ago. When we were just dating he always made time for me. It seems like now I am taking care of the kids and he hardly has time to spend with me. Even when it isn't his "day" to have the children he still attends all ballgames etc. the children have (I wouldn't expect him not to)...so even when we should have time alone together..we don't. I feel unfulfilled a lot of the time. He is a very attractive man and I care for him...he has even
We have been dating for about a year and a half. I moved in 6 months ago. When we were just dating he always made time for me. It seems like now I am taking care of the kids and he hardly has time to spend with me. Even when it isn't his "day" to have the children he still attends all ballgames etc. the children have (I wouldn't expect him not to)...so even when we should have time alone together..we don't. I feel unfulfilled a lot of the time. He is a very attractive man and I care for him...he has even

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"I love him....I just don't want to go back to taking care of young children. "
"If I didn't take care of the children I truly believe the relationship would be over."
Well then it's already pretty much over, isn't it?
Face it; he is a father before all else. His responsibilities are to his kids, and he's shifting that responsibility to you whether he intends to or not. They are NOT your children and you are not their step-mom either. This is not your responsibility, and unfortunately I see you gaining a lot of resent for him in the future because of it.
Dating someone with kids from another marriage is not for everyone, and unless you're really 110% into the idea of being a stepmom or learning to love someone else's children, you shouldn't pursue it.
Welcome to the board sherrit2007,
Let me ask you something, if he was appreciative in a way that met your needs - by
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