help

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Registered: 08-18-2007
help
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Sat, 08-18-2007 - 11:22am

i have been going with this girl for abou 3 years of and on this last time i lived with her for a year and a half she has a little girl 4 tears old i'm very close to i was with her more than anybody. we both lost our jobs about the same time mine do to a work injury. we were stressed out and i was getting depressed i fiannly got help for that but it was to late she told me to get out and when i was in the hospital she got rid of my stuff. i still can talk to her and she talk to me just not about us she said not to bug her so i havn't called inabout 3 days. i wrote her a 20 page letter letting know how i feel and miss her and tha little girl how i want to put back our family. i want to call her but i want her to have her space right now. what eles can i do to get my family back!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: schroomer
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 5:49pm

Welcome to the board schroomer,


It's really hard to get back together with someone that doesn't want to talk about 'us'.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
In reply to: schroomer
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 6:50pm
yes since i posted she has called me and said we can talk as friends and that she loves me but shes not in love with me whatever that means. at least i can still talk to her as long as i don't bring up anything about us . so today i called and wished her Happy birthday and sent a card nothing mushy and se how it goes . i guess i just need to give her space.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: schroomer
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 7:25pm
I'm really sorry... You sound like a good guy who cares about her a lot. Unfortunately she is not receptive to speaking as a couple right now. Distance yourself from her and let her miss you. If she really does still have feelings for you and want you back, she'll make a move herself but until then, and I know it's hard, back off and keep the communication sparse and light.