Help !

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Registered: 06-01-2007
Help !
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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 2:20pm
Help, I'm 24 and have no interest in sex. I have been im in a serious relationship for 6 years we have a 5 month old baby and I love him to death but I dont want to have sex.I had this problem long before the baby.... He tries so hard to do what ever he can to arouse me but I end up getting upset and turn him away. We argue all the time over his sexual frustration. I dont know what's wrong with me. I recognize that I have a problem and try to pump my self up during the day but i get home and have no desire to have sex. The first 3 years we would have sex all the time and now I can't remember the last time we did it and I enjoyed it. Help me ....I dont want my relationship to end!!
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Registered: 07-10-1999
In reply to: mom_kari83
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 4:41pm

Have you checked out the mismatched libidos board?
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlclashing
There may be information there that would be useful to you.

I would first speak to a doctor if I were you to rule out any physical problems. If the doctor doesn't find anything, then it is most likely psychological, and speaking to a therapist might help. If the problem is psychological, it can be either general anxiety or due to problems with the relationship. It sounds as though even though you want to please your SO more, part of you also holds a grudge against him for asking for it, and that is probably making it more difficult to enjoy the sex as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
In reply to: mom_kari83
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 4:47pm

You should see a doctor. I hear that they are releasing a patch soon that releases the hormones that make you aroused. Perhaps your body just has a hormone deficiency that needs to be corrected. See a doctor, I know there are already creams on the market that address low/no sex drive - saw it on Oprah.

Best of luck.

Coolas

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: mom_kari83
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 5:44pm

Welcome to the board mom_kari83,


This must be frustrating for both you and your bf. I agree with the previous posters that you should see your doctor about this. There could be something going on with your hormones or something else medically causing this. I think that is the first place to start.


Good luck.


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