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| Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:42pm |
My fiance and I have been together for 3 years now and engaged for 1 year. We are getting married in a couple of months.
Before I met him I dated one other boy for 2 weeks, so I don't really consider that a relationship. Besides that I haven't had any other relationships.
The problem I am having is that I find myself thinking about other men. Don't get me wrong! I would NEVER cheat on my partner. But I always have thought about what my life would be like if I would have dated another guy. Specifically, I will think about his friends, because I will find some traits in his friends that I wish that he had. So, it gets me thinking..."What would my life have been like if I had met that other guy sooner"...or something to that effect.
I feel AWFUL thinking this way. I want to be committed and totally in love with my soon to be husband. But I can't stop these thoughts every now and then. I've been thinking this way for a few months now. Am I just unsatisfied? I am afraid to bring up this topic to him because we've talked about this before and we almost broke up!
Please help!

Welcome to the board randi_pie,
I would postpone the wedding until you are sure you want to get married and that you will be happy.
In my opinion, some individual counseling would help you work through why you are having these feelings. Sounds like it could be cold feet or that you want experience what dating around feels like before you get married.
No matter what it turns out to be don't get married until this is resolved.
Good luck to you.
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