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| Mon, 04-16-2007 - 10:06pm |
Ok, well i don't know where to start on this, so I am going to try bare with me cause this may get long....
Ok so me and my fiance have been together for 2 years as of July 15 of this year, and have lived together all of those but maybe 1 month.
Recently I lost my job probably 1 month ago, (which i didn't make much there any way) So i was out of work for about 2 weeks, and didn't have any income coming in. Well I finally did get another job and actually this is the start of my 2nd week. Well I got my first check this past Friday, and I came home to tell my Fiance that a couple of people from work were talking about going out that Friday after work for dinner and a drink or two, but I told him that I had not given them an answer because I wanted to come home to make sure he didn't have any plans for us that night. Well what did I do that for cause as soon as it came out my mouth, not 10 mins later, there was an argument, he told me that I was always trying to find some way to spend money when I had bills due, espacially after I start a new job and get my first check. Such as when I got my first check my car payment was due, and cell phone. I told him what is it going to hurt to spend 20 dollars maybe a lil more, so the next thing I know (and this will shock you) he says well you can call your mom, and see if you can go stay with her for 1-2 weeks, to get your (my) stuff together. He says I don't know how to manage money! I admit I am only 22 he is 32, before I moved in with him I didn't really have no bills, I lived with my parents, and paid my car payment just like I do now and my cell phone, the only thing that I have added on is grocey bill, and giving him 200 dollars to contribute to household bills.
So here is my question? What do I do? He says I need to learn how to manage my money and right now I am in the best place that I need to be, however I can't stand to not be with him. I go see him tomorrow after work
Someone please help me out I know that he took this to the extreme a tad, I still have money and I have my checks set up to deposit a certin amount in my checking and a percentage into my savings everytime I get paid.
Please Help, I don't want to lose him and he told me tonight that next time we get in an arguement and he tells me or asks me to leave, then there won't be no coming back!
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Welcome to the board mixedncutenc,
I don't know where to start either - you weren't out of work that long and there is nothing wrong with taking a little bit of money from your first check to 'celebrate' - so I can't decide if he's controlling or just likes to act like your father.
If you had spent the money on a night out, would you have had enough money left over to meet your bills and other commitments? Do you have a small 'nest egg' to support yourself in case of unexpected unemployment?
If you did have enough money left after your night out and are able to support yourself when you've got no income, then I think he's way out of line. And you should leave him for someone less controlling.
However, if you would have been leaving yourself without enough money to meet your repayments and living expenses, or if he has been lending you money while you're out of work - then I would agree that you need to work on your money management skills.