Help?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2008
Help?
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Mon, 10-06-2008 - 1:26pm

Ok so I just joined this site & am so confused so any help would be greatly appreciated.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: penj2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:00pm

Welcome to iVillage and this board penj2008,


I highly recommend the two of you go to premarital counseling together to work this out.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
In reply to: penj2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:05pm

What you do want to do is to establish your own family unit separate from his mother...but..without alienating her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2008
In reply to: penj2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:20pm
He just doesn't seem to understand the boundary part because he's so scared to upset his mother.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: penj2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:26pm

" I can;t live like this "


That sounds like your bottomline.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2008
In reply to: penj2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:36pm
Your right, and I guess if he doesn't understand then he doesn't care enough.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: penj2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:45pm
Does that mean you're going to marry him as is, and put up with his mother; suggest counseling (you could go yourself if he says no); or call off the wedding?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2008
In reply to: penj2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 3:00pm
It all depends on what he says after hes done thinking.