Do not have another child until your marriage and communication improves. To call each other selfish is wrong. It is not selfish for him to decide he does not want more children. Please do not surprise him- that would be a very selfish move that would risk your marriage and the happiness of your 3 children.
Go to counseling to improve things and really talk through the 4th baby. Think about why you really want a 4th child too.
Also, don't play the victim. You are on top of the breast cancer with your doctor so you can't blame your husband for bringing it on.
Do not have another child until your marriage and communication improves. To call each other selfish is wrong. It is not selfish for him to decide he does not want more children. Please do not surprise him- that would be a very selfish move that would risk your marriage and the happiness of your 3 children.
Go to counseling to improve things and really talk through the 4th baby. Think about why you really want a 4th child too.
Also, don't play the victim. You are on top of the breast cancer with your doctor so you can't blame your husband for bringing it on.
Welcome to the board allisonmom2008,
I hope you take ciao_gina's advice.
Hi Allisonmom, I haven't experienced the situation you are in, so perhaps my thoughts are off base.