help?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2004
help?
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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 10:41pm
My wife has very low libido , she has had that since I met her 4 and half years ago. She was raped when she was a teenager and she thinks she might have been molested as a child, though she is not sure. She wants to help her libido, however she is not sure where to turn. There have been times when she has had wanted sex, however, alot of the time, she cries afterwards. She has seen a psychologist, however it was very discouraging for her because she said they did something with a mirror? She does not have any other issues (ie depression, anger etc) so she is not sure if it is related to the rape or maybe she was molested, but we are not sure what to do. We were thinking about some of the natural aprodisiacs and her doctor is going to test her testoterone level, but if she cries after sex, it wont do any good. She was thinking of hypnotist to see if there are some issues, or maybe a psychologist but I am not sure if there are psychologists that deal with these types of issues specifically. I have depression and have seen a few psychologists but they have not helped me. So ,she does not want to go through the same thing. Any advise would be appreciated. Thank You
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
In reply to: tony15
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 5:29am
I think you might find more helpful advice on one of the sex boards. It sounds like she should find another therapist whom she feels comfortable with though - it sounds like she has some issues that she needs to resolve.

Sorry, this must be very difficult for you.

Coolas