HELP!!!!!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
HELP!!!!!
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 7:38pm
Help im 20 years old and my husband is 32 which is not a problem. The problem is that im very jealous and insecure and we are constantly fighting over that. I wish i wasnt so jelous but it comes naturally i need some advice on how to change. He also likes porn and i dont i would like to watch it with him to make him happy but i just dont know where to begin. I feel like he watches it to get turned on then has sex with me to feel better but he says im wrong.... Any advice anyone?
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: luckymonkey03
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 8:39pm
Well, it has been my experience that a lot of men enjoy porn. I know my mate does. It used to bother me but not after 16 years. Men are different from us, they like visual stimulation, we need the emotional, well, and the physical. There is nothing lacking in you..I guess I mean to say "It's a guy thing". As long as he's not watchimg porn while you're being intimate I wouldn't worry so much.

As far as watching the movies with him...I am sure you are uncomfortable and feel like he is comparing. But usually not the case. Let him know it makes you uncomfy and makes you feel "compared" and 2nd. If you want to watch with him, try watching one while he is not around...they are usually hilarious...just crappy plots and meaningless sex. But yet, beware, some are just downright gross. I am sure I don't need to explain them to you.

Try to get over your initial embarrasment and watch with him and if it bothers you too much. Turn it off, take him by the hand and lead him to bed. Geeeze, I sound like an old lady perv. LOL I assure I am not. I too can be jealous and insecure. A fault of my own making though. Good luck!
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: luckymonkey03
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:37pm
Thank you for your response i feel so much better as you can tell i just want to make him happy. Im still trying to get the hang of this place it took me forever to find my message. But i guess it takes practice. If you happen to have more advice for me i would really appreciate it really. Thanks again hope to hear from you soon.