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| Sat, 09-25-2004 - 12:58pm |
Tricky situation here. I have been dating someone I met on the internet 2.5 yrs ago for some time over a long distance relationship. We see each other monthly and talk many times throughout the day. The only thing is she's a female, as am I. I am not 100% sure I am gay and what makes me wonder often is that I feel I have feelings for my best friend that I've known since kindergarten. HE happens to be a great guy who loves me and would do anything to be in a relationship with me. He's never tried anything, he respects that I would not cheat on my girlfriend. But it makes me wonder sometimes. Am I with the right person? And how do I know without ruining at least one wonderful friendship?
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| Sat, 09-25-2004 - 2:47pm |
I am a firm believer in fate....what ever happens, happens. Which of the two do you have stronger feelings for? If you pursue something with your guy friend, will your girlfriend be mad? Have you talked to either one about how you felt about both of them? Keep in mind, communication is the key to any great relationship...
| Sat, 09-25-2004 - 3:12pm |
I think that before you can choose the right person for yourself, you need to come to terms with your sexual orientation. Try posting on the Lesbian Issues and Bisexual boards for feedback and how to determine this in yourself. You may be bisexual, and if so you may have a stronger leaning towards one sex or the other, or it may be equal. In addition to sexual compatibility, you should be looking for a partner who meets your needs in all the ways that have nothing to do with sex.
| Sat, 09-25-2004 - 4:14pm |
I think that maybe you are not with the right person - if you are wondering about it. Especially after being with her for so long, and still wondering, then maybe you aren't. I would separate the two people though. It isn't necessarily either be with her or be with him. Separate your situation with her and decide if you really want to be with her or don't want to be with her. Maybe you are just better friends than anything else - or maybe that is what you would prefer. Either way, I would take a step back and re-evaluate your situation because it does sound like you are doubting your relationship with her.
