Help! Am I too insanely jealous?
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Help! Am I too insanely jealous?
| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 10:35pm |
Insecurity and jealously has always been a problem for me since my husband broke my heart two years ago and ended our relationship, but we got back together and got married. I guess I wasn't thinking too logically then. I've been trying for the past year to be happy and try not to dwell on the fact that he talks to his ex-girlfriends and I try to trust him. However, it's a bit difficult at times. This past weekend he and his friends went to an event and I found some pictures that he had taken with other women there. He had his arms around two women! and they both had their arms around him! You can imagine how that feels. I felt like someone punched me in the stomach and knocked the day lights out of me. I confronted him and he told me that it was no big deal. But how am I to disregard this? This is consuming my life currently. Please, if anyone has any advice, I'd greatly appreciate it. I just need some help dealing with this.
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I dont think you're too jealous. But there is a way to overcome this easily... when I was engaged to EX fiance, he did this same thing to me and I think I was a little too hard on him. ( other reasons he is my EX, but well stick to how I was hard on him)
Look at it this way: you have already admitted and defined your insecurity. you understand that about yourself... so really, in a way, you are actually confessing that you are more 'sensitive' to this than the average person.
2nd: you 'found' the pictures. he didnt come home and hang them on the wall! there is a difference. Guys are pretty lame when it comes to these ladies at these shows. Its like taking a picture with a celebrity, but he wasnt grabbing their boobs and asses, you know? And how long do you think this lasted? Two seconds.. maybe? eh- its just dumb, these girls move on to the next person and the next camera... they're just trying to get exposure and "be discovered". its very harmless!
now if he's watching porn, going to strip clubs, and magazines are coming in the mail every month- on top of this, then it warrants some serious concern.
Just let your husband know your concerns and that you're sorry but you feel a little insecure and it bothers you... and I'm sure he wouldnt mind passing these girls by without a wink at the next show!
no worries girl!