help! i don't know how to feel

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Registered: 05-05-2003
help! i don't know how to feel
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Wed, 01-21-2004 - 12:00am
hi, well im going to try and make this short. Me and my boyfriend have been together for going on 3 years and recently he's started up a business with one of his friends. Since starting up the business he seem very with drawn. He works really long days, which i unbderstand it alot of working starting a business but then after he finishes working he keeps hanging out with ted, the friend he is starting the business with. That ends up leaving very little time for the 2 of us to see eachother and when we do things seem different. We used to always cuddle up to watch movies but lately we just sit next to eachother with space between and watch and we are rarely intimate anymore. And he'll say he'll call me when hes done but i usually end up calling him only to find out he had been done for awhile. When i ask him if therese anything wrong he says no and he loves me just as much as always but it really doesnt feel like that. I don't know what to think, am i being too sensitive?

i guess another part to this is last year at the end of febuary my boyfriend steve decided we should take a break and we were apart for a month and i guess i've been scared since then that he is going to do it again.

thank you for reading and i appriciate any advice given.

jesi

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 01-21-2004 - 12:09pm




Starting a business is a very difficult thing to do, both financially and emothionally exhausting. Im sure he is not intentionally ignoring you, but feels obligated to you, himself and his business partner to make this work.Its very easy in this type of situation to lose sight of whats important, ultimatley, thats the relationship.


Let him know that you understand his commitment to this, but would appreciate a little more quality time. Be prepared to give him exact examples of what you would like to improve and how t improve it...he isnt a mind reader. Maybe you could set aside one day a week, or a month to just be together.?


Communicatio is key to a healthy relationship, so If you are habving doubts, be upfront with him.


Good luck,