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from: irish_maiden
date: 11:06 am
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I need help with something.
I have a boyfriend but another guy kissed me. We were at a club and I had had alot tp drink when one of his friends told me that my boyfriend had been cheating on me with his ex and that he was going around telling people that i wasn't his girlfriend, just someone to have sex with till he got back with his ex. I started to cry, because I've fallen in love with him and one of my friends, trying to cheer me up, and asked me to dance. Before the night was over, he kissed me, and i didn't pull away right away, but i did stop the kiss. It wasn't even a real kiss, it was like a peck. The next day, I talked to my boyfriend and he told me everything that his friend had said was a lie, that he would never cheat on me and that he loved me. I don't know what to believe, I don't want to lose him, but the guilt of having had another guy kiss me it eating at me. Should I tell him and risk losing him, or keep it from him, because at the time i was under the impression he had cheated on me?

Carrie
There's no reason at all to have so much guilt about a "peck" or even a kiss. You were not unfaithful to your boyfriend. In addition to that, you heard terrible news about him and were drinking, so the little kiss was probably a way of reclaiming your good feelings about yourself. No need to say anything about this. Also, I would spend time really finding out more about what the friend said. In order to feel safe, respected and loved in this relationship, you should find out why he would say such a thing. Why would he lie to you? This is not a matter of distrusting your boyfriend, but making sure that you are in a relationship which is truly honest and ultimately supportive for you. Sometimes when we feel cheated on, we do strange things to get back or to feel good once again. You don't want this scenario to happen again.
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