help me please

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2008
help me please
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Mon, 09-01-2008 - 4:30pm

Hi,


I posted this message on another board and have decided to place this here with hope of getting additional advice.


Briefly

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: millsb2008
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 5:48pm

millsb, if you want to recommit to your husband and kids, you will have to find someone else who provides this guy's services for your business. You may not think that you would actually go that far to actually have an affair, but that is how ALL affairs start. The fact that you are thinking of it and this guy causing you to wonder about spending your life with only one man is cheating. If your husband felt this way for somebody else, you would be absolutely heartbroken.

Tell him that you don't feel the closeness between you is right and find someone else's services. It's really wrong and unprofessional of him to talk this way to a client in the first place.

Your marriage will thank you for it even if this isn't the most favored answer

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
In reply to: millsb2008
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 6:37pm

I think you need to set this guy straight.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: millsb2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 1:29pm

Welcome to the board millsb2008,


You've allowed him to confide in you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: millsb2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 3:23pm

Hi everyone,


Thanks for the responses. I recognize that I must be in an EA and I really want to get out. But I can't let my H

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: millsb2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 4:02pm

So if this OM has any real interest what are you going to do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: millsb2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 4:52pm

HI cl-itwinflame,


You are quite right. I am not sure what void the OM is

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: millsb2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 4:57pm

You have to find a way to communicate your needs to your husband and work on getting those needs met together.