Help Me Please!!!!!

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Help Me Please!!!!!
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Sat, 01-03-2004 - 6:18pm
I am 5 months pregnant and just caught my husband having an affair, he also has said that he has feelings for this woman.....what do I do??? I still love him and want things to work out. Please, Please Help Me
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 6:56pm
OMG I am so very sorry to hear this. *hugs* I wish I could do something to help you. Having been cheated on while pregnant I have somewhat of an idea what you must be feeling.

Did you catch him red-handed? And your husband isn't willing to work any of this out? I highly recommend you do whatever it takes to get some counseling going for the two of you. It's bad enough that he's hurting you; but the fact that there is an innocent child who could hurt from this situation really concerns me. And I hope that you try to do what you can to relax and not let the emotional stress get the better of you. That baby needs you to take care of yourself right now. So try to keep eating, resting, and going about your normal activity - as impossible as it may seem. Perhaps you could stay with a family member until you guys figure out what's next. You're gonna need some support.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 7:09pm
Consider posting on the Betrayed Spouse Support Board.

Sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 8:12pm
Thank you sooooo much for replying. Yes I did catch him red-handed, or should we say "pants down"??? He says he is "done" with her and wants to move home, he has been staying with friends/her. I also have another child to make matters worse, if possible
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 10:51pm
support:

http://www.retrouvaille.org/home.htm

www.marriagebuilders.com


Reading material:

Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris

Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair by Lana Staheli

Straight Talk About Betrayal: A Self-Help Guide for Couples by Donna R. Bellafiore

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful -- Janis Abrahms

Making this right and rebuilding trust falls on his shoulders. Which if you decide to take him back, insist on counseling, or chances are it will happen again.


Carrie