Help me please with stepchildren and mar
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Help me please with stepchildren and mar
| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 4:06pm |
I am possibly getting married in 2 and a half months. My fiance is a great guy he can be a little immature sometimes but we have 4 children between us mine are elementary age 5 and 7 his 11 and 13. His are a real handfull and we stay so busy with that that we dont always find time to communicate with one another because of it. Its difficult i love him deeply but sometimes i hate his guts because he can be a real jerk sometimes. Im doing a lot of work and he ignores me 90 percent of the time because he is always busy. I am losing that special feeling because I feel like a slave to hime not a girlfriend. He doesnt even recognize what a jerk he is sometimes I dont know what top do help me am i expecting a fairytale with all the work or should i move on.
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| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:31pm |
I feel for you! I'm in a bad situation with my finace and kids too! (read my post) I know that blended families are not easy but you have to think of yourself and your kids first. If finace is already treating you like a maid instead of a girlfriend, it's not going to get any better after you're married. If he's expecting these things of you now, he's going to expect even more after you've tied the knot. I don't know how good I am at giving advice because I've got myself into a big mess, but I do know that it has to be resolved BEFORE getting married. I will postpone my wedding if I have to and you might want to consider the same. If you think you might as well go ahead with the wedding and work things out along the way, it's going to be alot harder to convince your 'husband' that you need more attention and alot harder to leave him after you're married. Figure this out before the wedding! Good luck!!
