help me save my marriage

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Registered: 06-07-2004
help me save my marriage
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 7:23pm
my huband and i got married last july and all was wonderful, a month later we found out that i was pregnant with our first child, it was unexpected, but we were happy. My pregnancy ended up being extremely difficult; i was put on bedrest the last four months. i had terrible mood swings and was depressed for the majority of the time it began to put a strain on our marriage. One week after our baby was born my husband said he thought that we should get a divorce we worked things out as well as possible but things have been tense, now our son is 7 weeks old and my husband has left the house to sort his thoughts because yet again he thinks he wants a divorce. i don't want to lose him he is everthing to me but i'm not sure how to get him to work things out i don't feel we've given our marriage a fair try. please, any advice?
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 8:53pm
You poor thing. I cannot imagine having to deal with such a heavy burden so close after the birth of a baby. And never mind the pregnancy - horrors!!

Anyway, I think you should try to take good care of yourself and the baby for right now. Is there someone who can help you with meals and housework? Try to get more sleep and get yourself and the house fixed up.

I am thinking that your DH just needs time to sort out his thoughts and come to grips with being a father. Maybe you both need counseling.

All you can do is tell him how much he means to you and then give him time.

In the mean time, self care for you and baby are most important. Try to put your energies in the baby for now - they are so tiny and precious - enjoy every moment as best as you can.