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| Fri, 09-14-2007 - 12:38am |
Long story short... Off and on for almost seven years. I would not say we have had an easy relationship, met young, etc... but I would say we always have had enormous levels of love for one another. Well, we had decided to move across country and move in together for the first time. This is supposed to happen in a couple months. Well, I think the stress of that had gotten to both of us and we had not been getting along all that great lately. So, a week ago we had plans to do something. Instead we end up in a phone call with him saying that he thinks we want different things and that things just havent been the same lately, etc. I asked him if he was breakin up with me over the phone and he said he wasnt trying to do that (not a yes or a no). Things got more heated and i hung up on him saying to do whatever he wants. Well... I hear he has told people we are broken up. I am not sure to what extent he is doing this, because in the past he has "advertised" his singledom and this time he hasnt even changed his myspace status to single. I have contacted him and asked him if we are broken up for real this time or if he just needs time to think. No response. He has however communicated with me about a non-relationship issue. But in regards to the relationship i have gotten nothing except for me saying "I would like to talk. Are you open to that idea at all" and he responded with "maybe but not in the immediate future." And nothing else. He hates talking about relationship things, he hates confrontation, and he hates discussing things. Perhaps he feels our conversation should have already answered those questions??? Do i move on? Are we broken up? Why cant he atleast send me a message saying he needs time to think or is over it etc. etc. He knows I have a serious decision to make within the next week as to stay here or move across the country. If anyone has any idea what is going on in his head, PLEASE let me know. I am lost..

Welcome the board spinninganddizzy,
I am sorry you are going through this. It must be even worse considering you were going to move across the country to be with him. I would send him an email or whatever saying you need to know if you should still be moving next week. He will either answer with a yes or no, or if doesn't answer than it is no. You deserve more from him in regards to the status of your relationship. But I would say since he said that he doesn't want to talk about this in the immediate future that he doesn't want you to move.
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I think you're broken up and you should move on. His myspace profile isn't an indication of your relationship status; the fact that he's telling people you're broken up and he is single, and hearing no response from him except for non-relationship issues, is.
I know it sounds like a waste of a long time but it sounds as though he's made his decision and for your own sake, and for the sake of your own dignity, you should honor it.
"He hates talking about relationship things, he hates confrontation, and he hates discussing things."
This is not a person with whom you can possibly hope to have a happy future. Consider yourself broken up and do your best to deal - a man who can't even talk frankly with you is not worth your time.
Welcome to the board spinninganddizzy,
Sorry to say, but it sounds like you two are broken up to me.