Help! My husband can go days without sex

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Help! My husband can go days without sex
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Sat, 01-03-2009 - 4:04pm
I need serious help. My husband and I just got married in 2008 and have been living together since September when I relocated to NC because he's a Marine. I am so frustrated because he can go days without having sex. Today is 1/3 and the last time we had sex was Christmas Eve - 12/24. We have discussed this before - he offered in a discussion we had one day the he does not want me to think he does not love me just because we don't do 'it' a lot. He said that he is often just tired from his crazy schedule. But my question was what about weekends. He can spend a whole weekend playing video games - I feel like if he has time and energy for that then he should have time and energy for me. I feel like I am not a priority at all. I feel like even if he is tired his desire for me should be stronger. I have never had this problem in the past - and what frustrates me is the person that I love the most and am spending the rest of my life with has this issue. I brought it up one time again and it just lead to things being really awkward and then we just ignored it.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2009
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 10:42pm

Is he on any medications?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 11:33pm

dlynn, has your boyfriend discussed this with his doctor? Or sought a second opinion from another doctor?

It's just that there are many *new* anti-depressant drugs which don't play havoc with your sex drive. If they all play havoc with him, what about alternative therapies?

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 1:00am
I think nothing has perpetuated more problems in the bedroom that expectations of how often is okay and how often isn't okay.

 

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