Help !! Need some advice
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| Thu, 06-03-2004 - 11:28am |
This is my first time to this board and could really use some help.
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and 1/2. We had a great relationship. We were talking about the future and planning to get married. We even shopped for rings together. The he got cold feet. He said he couldn't do it. He said he's not sure why and that he is confused and that he's not the man he wants to be. He's 25 and I'm 28 so I know that age sometimes is a factor. But the thing is I love him so much it hurts that I'm not with him. Two weeks ago we broke up. We spoke last week and i told him i wouldn't contact him since he needs the time to think. I told him that he could call me anytime, but he didn't. I don't know why I'm having such a hard time with this but i don't understand how he could just shut off his feelings so fast after being madly in love for a year in a half. All the advice I get from my friends are so different. One tells me to never call and if he loves me and it was meant to be he will come back. Another tells me to not give up on what we had. I just do not know what to do. Do I contact him or let him be. Will he ever come back?
Thanks

Most guys just like girls want to make sure that everything is in order so that they know they can provide for themselves and their family. Maybe he's not happy with what he's doing and wants to find that first. Maybe he's afraid of loosing his freedom. If he loves you he will realize what he has and he'll be back.
If it makes you feel better write him a letter.....
Then give him some time before you call again!
In 3 months or so he could be back but until then do what will make you happy!
Hey Girl,
Give him some time, but don't sit around waiting for him. You still young have fun go out with your girls, stay busy. You have to understand that he's 25yrs old. I think he was afraid to take that big step. If the break up was in a friendly manner then you could call him once in awhile as a friend. I think you shouldn't wait for him, but if he do comes around it'll be your decision to take him back. Really do think about it