help please

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Registered: 12-27-2007
help please
2
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:00am




hi all,


i won t take much of ur time.i ve dated my bf for about 2 yrs.our relationship went through ups and downs but we always tried to keep it going.after the new yr i decided that i wanted to talk to him about us getting serious.i was shcked that he was so against the idea saying that he is not ready and it will take a long time for him to even think about such a thing.anyways at that point i decided to go out and beak it up cus he was so serious about not wanting to settle down and have a familly.


we stopped talking for a while and i tried everything i could to keep my distance and i even went on a date with a really special person.2 wks later my bf or actually my ex at the time called me and i was stupid to answer him.he was asking about what i m doing.i told him that i m ok and i m seeing somebody.


since that day he started calling and coming to c me.he came many nights at 4 or 5 in the morning saying that he can t sleep thinking about us.he tried everything to get back and said that he sees together in the future.


because i love him i left the other person and i went back with him.i was talling him that i was so much in love with him and that s why i had to bring marriage and leave the other guy.not even a week after we got back together.he said he doesn t work on our realtionship anymore cus he lost interest and his feelings are gone.


i m going crazy.i can t believe after all i ve done and he did he just thrw me out of the window.he said that he could nt believe that i was up for a date right after i broke up with him.didn t take long to move on.he blamed for ruining everything eventhough i was the one to ask for marriage at first.


i couldn t take the fact that he broke up with me for no reason and never looked back to see that i have nt done anything.if he didn t want me why did he ruine my relationship with other person?how could say he loved me when he easilly said that feel it anymore in less than a wk.i want him so much i can t take this pain that is aching my heart.


i have n t slept in days. can t anybody

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 10:20am
It seems to me that he is playing a horrible game with you. I bet you anything that if you started seeing someone else seriously again, he would want you back.... AGAIN. It seems as though he likes the chase. He doesn't want you, but doesn't want anyone else to want you either. I am sorry you are hurting...
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:19pm

Welcome to the board marwalovesalways,


No, do not continue to go after him. He is playing games with you. He liked the thrill of the hunt/chase when you were dating the other guy. It was fun for him to try and get you back. If he wanted a serious relationship with he, he woudn't be doing this times of things.


It is best to move on from him. If he calls, don't answer.