Help plz

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Registered: 02-13-2007
Help plz
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 3:22pm

Well me and my boyfriend have a son. He broke up with me when I was 5 months pregnant. But now 8 months later we are trying to be together again. And that's what I wanted. But now he won't have sex with me because he is scared he will get me pregnant again.. which I would understand but in those 8 months that we were apart he had sex with like 5 other girls which he could have just as easily got them pregnant.

Also he says he cares about me but all he does everytime I go to his house is play video games or watch t.v. So pretty much he ignores me the whole 8 or so hours I am there with him.

So my question is do think there is anything I can do to make things better between us or are we just not ment to be and should I just break things off with him before I get seriously hurt... AGAIN!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 3:34pm

Welcome to the board lettersbad,


Would he consider going to counseling with you are reading some good self-help books?


Reading material:


Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis


Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman


Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 4:21pm
Is counciling expensive though? I've thought about that before.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 4:41pm
Counseling can be expensive...yet sometimes it's more expensive not to get counseling, if you know what I mean.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: lettersbad86
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 5:05pm

Welcome to the board lettersbad,


To me it sounds like he is too immature to handle to responsibility of being a parent. You can use protection so you don't become pregnant again.


Why did he break up with you when you were pregnant? Has he been involved with his child?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:16pm

He broke up with me because he says he wasn't attracted to me any more. Also we allll know that he broke up with me because he wanted to have sex with other girls.

And he didn't start seeing his kid until he was 2 months old.... so about three weeks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-14-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:04pm
You deserve better. You gave birth to one baby and you actually are dealing with two!
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Registered: 04-10-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:23pm
it sounds like he just felt bad he got you pregnant and now wants to be responsible because he felt like it is the right thing to do. But he does not take it seriously.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: lettersbad86
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 10:24am

Why would you even want to get back with someone who broke up with you when you were pregnant with their child so they could have sex with other women? Then he doesn't even see his child until it is two months old.


You deserve better and so does your baby.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 10:52am
I think you can do better than him. I can't for the life of me understand why you want to try making it work with someone who went out and slept with other people while you are pregnant. Being pregnant is the most vulnerable time in your life, do you REALLY want to be with someone who has proven that he will not stand by you when you need someone to stand up for you most? This guy is a dishonorable man and a lousy excuse for a parent. I understand that you might want to try to reconcile for the sake of your baby together but there will come a time down the road when he hurts you again and you will sorely regret staying with him.
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Registered: 02-13-2007
In reply to: lettersbad86
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:12pm

Welp for an update for everyone. Last night he stood me up, probably cheated on me and is probably back to his parting ways.

So now I am at home with my baby having a very sad day. It just sucks where I live, there isn't a single DECENT man anywhere to be found. And I am just one of the those kinds of girls who like to be in a relationship. I love the feeling of being well felt, loved. And I love loving people.

I know I deserve more than his crap. It's just tough. But now it is really over. Really really over.

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