HELP! Serious problems w/ husband - He changed! HELP!

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Registered: 04-16-2012
HELP! Serious problems w/ husband - He changed! HELP!
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Mon, 04-16-2012 - 2:32am

I have been married since Aug 2011 and we are in a long-distance marriage.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Cassiopeia, I'm so sorry you've found yourself in this situation.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Hi and I agree with true blue

It sounds like your husband did what is called a bait and switch... He was one person when you met and dated and now he

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Registered: 07-29-2002

My DH served in the military.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
So am I understanding correctly that you were together less than a year before you got married?

If so, yes, you're right, you did rush into it - hopefully, this is a lesson learned that you should not allow your heart to overrule your head. That is not to say ignore your heart but only that equally, you should not ignore your head either. You did not know him well enough to know who he really is and now that he's got you "trapped", he is showing his true colors. He is abusive and disrespectful and if you don't get out now, it will only get worse.
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Registered: 05-20-2009

I agree with the others........you married him before you knew him!

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Registered: 04-16-2008
I agree with the others. Your H is VERY ABUSIVE and you should get out now before it escalates (and this type of behavior ALWAYS does) This behavior will no doubt become physical when he comes home and moves in with you. You are also right about the life insurance. Unless there are children, a spouse typically names the other spouse as the beneficiary. That being said, something is just NOT right here. Another possibility is that he is seeing someone else over there. I say that because men tend to become mean and abusive towards their wives when they are seeing someone else. You need to get out of this marriage ASAP before all this escalates. GOOD LUCK.
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Registered: 04-16-2012

I was looking into these accounts because he didn't tell me anything about the military setting them up.

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Registered: 04-16-2012

Yes, we dated for about 5 months, then he left for bootcamp, which was two months.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
He treats you terribly and then "doesn't even apologize". That's a real bad sign that he has no remorse afterwards for the way he treats you. Narcissist behavior. His temper is dangerous and he needs to go see a counselor that specializes in anger management. I wouldn't even consider living in the same house with him being like this. I'm very concerned about you girl, and if you were my daughter I'd be worried sick about you.
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Registered: 07-29-2002

We can only relate to the information you provide.

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