Help, went from good friends to more....
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Help, went from good friends to more....
| Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:00pm |
I've known this person 12 yrs, good friends with my family etc. 2 yrs ago he came back into town and we started talking again, he's been having trouble with his marriage for years now but as most guys stick around because of the kids. About 2 months ago he informed me that he has been thinking of me as more than a friend, and we finally slept together shortly after. I've been out of a relationship for close to 4 yrs, and i'm trying to play it cool, but he's taken this little fling to another level. Its not just a affair to him now, and he actually told my mother he needs to file for a divorce because the stress with him and his wife is to much. I'm torn up here because not only are we really good friends, but now lovers, and to add more to the "pot", there isn't a doubt in my mind that he isn't going to hurt me emotionally either. I'm afraid to be honest with him about what i am feeling because he keeps pressuring me on the subject. HELP...any advice needed except that i'm an idiot because there is alot more to this "situation" than i have said. :)

Maybe you need to take the intiative here and back off a bit. Let him know excaltey how you feel, that oyu are afraid of getting hurt and maybe you should cool things off till everything sizzles doen with his soon to be ex.
There is children involved inthis and whether they are yours or his, makes this whole thing even more complicated. They need to be in the forefront here, not yours and his sex lives. You are right, I think, in saying that oyu will be the one to get hurt. The ink hasnt even been wrote- let alone dried on his divoce papers...its just a thought right now, and he is already thinking about where things will be headed with you. If nothing else, it should tell you how he prioritizes his relationships.
Best wishes,