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Help-will it get better in time?
| Fri, 03-16-2007 - 9:44am |
I have been with my husband for 8 years. We have a 3 year old and a 4 month old. The problems of our relationship started after having children as it was really hard for me to be a mom, worker and a wife. We lacked intimacy and sex which I take full credit for, but I was easily annoyed by him because I didn't feel like he was giving me what I needed emotionally-especially when I was pregnant. Anyway, this is my question: in the last two weeks, I have realized how much I love him and how much I want this relationship to work for us and for our children. I have been doing everything I can to show him how much I love him, but he had shut down so it is an interesting go. I feel like he is letting me do everything while keeping cool to not get rejected by me-so instead he is a bit indifferent to me. I can't blame him, but it still makes me feel bad. I know that this is how he must have felt for a very long time so in a sense I guess I deserve it, but what should I do? Do I just keep at it and will he 'be in love with me again?' I know he just wanted to feel special and important and I had so much going on that I neglected our relationship. The fog has lifted for me and I want to do everything I can. He does say he loves me and wants to find our passion again...but he thought I had 'checked out for good.' Thanks for your thoughts!

Hi bubblebath and welcome to the board.
If he is indifferent to protect himself, things won't improve until he's ready to make himself vulnerable to you again.
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