help.......lost.

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Registered: 06-19-2011
help.......lost.
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Wed, 06-22-2011 - 7:35pm
ngMOMof3 (iVillage Member) Jun 19I need advice, which is why I came to iviallage. My husband has crossed many boundaries over the last couple of years between FB and texting. I have been with him since I was 14, so I think it's 24 years now. I have always just worn blinders to ignore things, but when FB came along, bringing these online friends into my living room, forced my blinders off. I do not like what I see. I do not like what I have actually not only put up with, but allowed. Without getting into the whole story I want and need him to leave. The issue is that we have a 7 year old daughter, and I am a store manager in retail, so my hours are messed up. Not a 9-5 Monday -Friday job. Luckily our sons are 18 and 21 so for now they can watch her. What do I do when she goes back to school in the fall and I need to be in work at 6 AM? By then the 18 year old will be at boot camp for the Navy, and the 21 year old works. How do I get someone to be here at atleast 5AM? I do not want to stay with him because I need a babysitter, and unfortunately that is the only reason I am still here. I/we both deserve to be happy....right? I'm so lost at this point I feel like I am losing my mind. Even when I kick him out I'm calling him like a baby to come back. Help.....
Keep what is worth keeping - and with a breath of kindness...blow the rest away.................
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Registered: 07-29-2002
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 8:11pm

Most schools and daycares offer morning care before school starts, that could be an option for you to look into.

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Registered: 06-22-2011
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 8:18pm

Check around - there are a lot of home daycare providers and you should be able to find one that accepts children early. Mine does. She accepts them in the morning, puts them down so they can still sleep and then makes sure they get on the bus for school. Or find another mother in your area that puts her children on the bus and work out some sort of trade off for child-care. Keeping the guy around for that doesn't seem worth it at all, esp when there are tons of single parents out there who make it work. If you can find another single mom (or dad)

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 3:49pm

Could the child sleep over her dad's house the night before you have to go to work early?