her bf left for older woman with baby

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Registered: 11-01-2003
her bf left for older woman with baby
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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:18am
this is my cousin's story...

she's been with this guy for almost a year... in a week would've been their one year anniversary. three months ago he proposed to her, bought her a ring and gave it to her; she accepted it. Then about a month ago he started acting weird (he's always been weird, ex: getting mad at guy friends she talks to and getting mad at her hanging out with her friends).

about two weeks ago he was working at the park and his ex girlfriend, emily showed up. she started talking to him and she showed him a picture of her 2 and half year old boy, Taylor. he asked if he could keep the picture and she gave it to him.

He went to work and made a bet with a bunch guys about how my cousin would react to the picture if he'd told her it was his baby (as a joke). well he lied to my cousin about it and she got pissed off and punched him in the mouth. a week later he told her he was just kidding and he had lost $50 for the bet.

how mad would you be if your bf showed up one day and told you he's been lying to you for a year about a son he's had? but then it was all a joke??

after that incident the fights became more frequent, reason being he wouldn't spend time with her, instead he spends time with emily and her son. finally yesterday he came to her house and sat down, wanted a talk. he said he needed a break. then he packed his stuff and left, before he left he said "we should see different people. im gonna be at emily's. you should find someone else."

she has cried and cried and made herself sick. i hope any of you guys out there could give her some support and extra strength, plus advice about how to handle this break up and hopefully recover from this heartache soon. she hasn't had many good luck with guys. just any words of support would be strongly appreciated. thank you.

if you would like to contact her in person please email shysbgal17@aol.com.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 4:53pm
Some things are just not funny, and now that's he's 'at Emily's' I'd say he's got a thing for her and I would wonder if Taylor really was his son. Enough about him.

She has to grieve for what might have been, for what could have been, for what she hoped would have been. Write him a ton of UNSENT letters, telling him exactly how she feels about his behavior, choices, decisions, lies, - cry, rage, vent on paper.

Reading material to consider:

Don’t Call that Man – The Survival Guide to Letting Go – Rhonda Finding

Rebuilding When a Relationship Ends, Bruce Fisher

Olive Juice...and Other Thoughts on Love, Heartbreak and Moving Forward by Eric Champnella

I Used to Miss Him...But My Aim is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide by Alison James


Carrie