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Here's a new one - Jehovah
| Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:58pm |
HELP! My boyfriend and I are deeply in love, HOWEVER, the one thing standing in our way is that he's a Jehovah's Witness and is forbidden a relationship with me, who is not. I've been trying to learn more about the religion but frankly, if a religion says that it's customary to SHUN your OWN FAMILY for BREAKING THE RULES, I find that to be completely ridiculous. Unfortunately, this is how he's always been brought up so he's kinda "brainwashed". I love this man more than anything and would do anything for him but he does not have the courage to stand up to his family (he's 36!). He's told me that he'd rather his mom THINK that he was already happy instead of breaking her heart. HOW CAN I COMPETE WITH THAT and what on earth do I do?

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"He believes it's what he HAS to do and would do anything not to disappoint his family."
I'm sorry to say this but this is the answer right here and you'd be fooling yourself to try to go against this. I don't really know what you want us to say, if you are right and he feels this way about his parents then you really do not have a chance with him long-term.
I know you want us to say "go for it, love conquers all" but it doesn't, and it would be wrong for us to tell you go to into a relationship where you ultimately come out hurt.
I guess I was hoping for "love conquers all" type responses to hang in there and all that good stuff. I don't WANT to let him go, I want to try and work it out no matter what it is that I have to do. I never before HAD a relationship this fulfilling before and I don't want to give up without a fight and I believe in it. Just looking for support instead of people telling me to walk away. Cause I just can't.
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Welcome to the board drgmommy,
If love conqured all, none of us would be here.
I so thank you for that story.....it's one positive happy-ending whereas everyone else advises me to just walk away from the only man that's ever made me truly happy....
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