You've been married 16 years and you get angry because he didn't return a phone call you made to his work? Then you email him to tell him how angry you are and how you can't depend on him? Why? Because he didn't answer your call?
You know, it could very well be that he is cheating, but it does sound to me that your husband is tired of the way that you treat him. I would bet that there's a LOT more to this then you are telling us. Perhaps you have not been as "happily married" as you purport to be.
It IS easy to say things in the heat of the moment. Some times we need to vent, stay it, get it off our chest, release the emotional charge so we can see it differently and move forward.
There are many reasons why he would be distant and angry. There's no reason to assume that he's cheating. The best way to find out what's bothering him is to ask. Ask in an open, inviting way, not full of anger and blame. He may not know himself what is bothering him, or he may? If you create an enviornment of trust and friendliness it may make it easier for him to let you know what's going on.
If the anger and withdrawal continues and he refuses to talk about it, then I suggest you let him know that being in a relationship means communicating - and if he refuses to communicate or work on his feelings then the relationship is being endangered. It's not healthy for either of you.
You've been married 16 years and you get angry because he didn't return a phone call you made to his work? Then you email him to tell him how angry you are and how you can't depend on him? Why? Because he didn't answer your call?
You know, it could very well be that he is cheating, but it does sound to me that your husband is tired of the way that you treat him. I would bet that there's a LOT more to this then you are telling us. Perhaps you have not been as "happily married" as you purport to be.
Welcome to the board paigeit,
What's happened in the last year?
Hmmm, if his work responsiblities have changed in the last year ... that might have a lot to do with it ... you think?
You are right.
There are many reasons why he would be distant and angry. There's no reason to assume that he's cheating. The best way to find out what's bothering him is to ask. Ask in an open, inviting way, not full of anger and blame. He may not know himself what is bothering him, or he may? If you create an enviornment of trust and friendliness it may make it easier for him to let you know what's going on.
If the anger and withdrawal continues and he refuses to talk about it, then I suggest you let him know that being in a relationship means communicating - and if he refuses to communicate or work on his feelings then the relationship is being endangered. It's not healthy for either of you.
Best wishes,
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