He's not "in love" anymore

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Registered: 07-21-2008
He's not "in love" anymore
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Mon, 07-21-2008 - 3:40pm

My husband has recently informed me that he loves me and will do anything for me, but he is no longer "in love" with me.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 6:53pm
I wasnt making a personal comment about YOU...however, you turned a general statement about men who act and think in the way I described and took it PERSONALLY and decided to TRY to jab me back.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 6:54pm
No it is not..and you know better.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 6:58pm
I never said ALL men.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 8:45pm

"it is reality and if reality bites ... too bad for you."

I'm not sure this is the most effective statement you could make to prove that you're not bitter.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 11:04pm

My statement is my statement..just matter of fact...very blunt...whether on

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 12:13am

Men tend to think that besides the social calendar and the kids and the housekeeping and the cooking...women are responsible for the couple's sex life too.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 1:29am

I thought this might happen, your original point is being completely lost.

Anyway, angelvtaylor, this is a book I read about and then purchased for myself. It has a ton of great tips in it, some of which you might be able to use right away to advantage.

http://love.ivillage.com/lnm/lnmgetcloser/0,,bmxq58mm,00.html

It's the Bunny Book, written by three Playboy Bunnies about keeping/bringing the heat into a long-term relationship, and not just sexually, although eventually that's where everything heads in a romantic relationship, such as marriage.

Best of luck to you!

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 7:02am
Correct, I do tell women that their significant others deserve better when they are cheaters. Do you disagree?
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Registered: 07-20-2008
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 8:32am

Hi angel,

In the midst of my own pain here I am also trying to make a positive impact on others on this board as thats what we are all here for.

So my impression of what I know about your situation so far is that all is not lost.He has come to you and shared how he is feeling. He is probably not happy about this either and is in pain as well. He has expressed a willingness to try to work things out and recapture this "in love" feeling with you. Take him up on it. You love him and your heart is broken I know so you must do whatever you can to see if you can work it out. Go to counselling if he's willing but most importantly try and show him (and guys don't take this the wrong way) in a way that a man a man can understand how much you love him. in your day to day and in the bedroom. Start doing things the way you remember it was and that he responded well to when you both had "that warm fuzzy feeling" You can not forsee the outcome,and how he chooses to change is up to him,but it will be a start in a better direction. I hope this helps

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 5:55pm
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