He's talking about suicide

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Registered: 04-24-2004
He's talking about suicide
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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 3:50pm
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago, which was completely unexpected. He wouldn't return my calls or tell me why. Well I laid off and he called about a week and a half ago. He said that when he broke up with me he was about to self-destruct, needed some time, and didn't mean to push me away and that everything got worked out and he wanted to see me. He sounded really sincere and genuine in his message.

Well I found out, through friends of his, that the next day he lost this home. On top of that, he no longer has a job or any source of income. He was going to school but couldn't afford it so he had to drop out. He was since been talking about committing suicide.

I still have feelings for him and want a relationship with him. I know this isn't the time to say anything to him about it. But should I try to let him know that he can talk to me about whatever is going on? Though we're not in a relationship I still care about him and his well-being. I was in a place similar to his last year and only found it was made worse by the fact that I felt I couldn't talk to anyone. I was lucky enough to find someone to help me out. Should I offer to be available to him or should I just leave him be? Also, I want to make sure that I'm correct in not mentioning anything about "renewing" our relationship until everything gets straightened out. Thanks for any help.

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 7:57am
You really should convince him to see k help, this is a strong sign of depression. You would be helping him immensely by being there for him and even talking with his family. He feels he has hit bottom and theres no way out. Please remember that feeling like this is not his choice and you certainly ahould talk to him for help. Good Luck PS you may want to read about depression,,,
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Registered: 04-24-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 2:19pm
I actually know a lot about depression. I dealt with depression and suicide last year. I did seek help but ended up dealing with it on my own, with the help of a few friends, and everything turned out fine. During the course of our relationship, I never mentioned it to him. I have tried to get ahold of him to let him know that he can talk to me. Haven't heard anything yet.