He's wrong, right?

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Registered: 04-27-2004
He's wrong, right?
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 12:43pm
I am in a long distance relationship and while being on the phone with my beau, a male friend of mine called. I quickly hung up with my beau for my friend because he announced he is leaving for war 1st week of June. So I found it neccessary to speak with my friend who is also long distance and will soon be even further away. After speaking with my friend for about 45 min. I called my beau back and he told me how he didn't like the idea of me hanging up with him for another guy. I explained to him how my friend will be leaving soon for war and he replied, so you hung up with me for something that won't be happening until a few weeks later, sorry for being insecure but if I don't mention it now you will always do that. He's being insensitive, right?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 12:51pm
Personally, I don't think he is being insensitive and I don't blame him for being hurt. You could have told your friend, what number are you going to be at, can I call you back in awhile?


Carrie

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Registered: 08-09-2000
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 1:18pm
I don't think he's being insensitive at all...

But then, I think it's rude to take a call when you are already talking to someone else. I think the introduction of caller-id and multiple phones has made us very inconsiderate and impolite (as a society in general). Unless there is a dire emergency, finish the first call first.

Julie

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Registered: 04-30-2004
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 1:52pm
I feel that you bf over reacted, If he is secure in your relationship he should know that no matter what he wil always be first. M/b your friend needed to talk to you right then b/c he needed soemone. Atleast you called your b/f back there's nothing wrong w/ what you did sense what your friend was calling 4 was a big deal. Your man has to realize that you have a life outside of him and you have to be there when your friends need you and of course when he does as well.


Edited 5/21/2004 9:19 am ET ET by lpreston2004
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Registered: 01-11-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 12:05am
I can see how he would be upset, but I think your heart was in the right place. I definately know what it is like to have loved ones sent to war. If this is the first you have heard of his orders, you were probably hit with a few emotions. Just explain to your fella the situation, and let him know that he's # 1. Even if you knew about the deployment for a while, it is still not easy to deal with.


P.S. Don't constantly watch the news and tell your friend to hurry home.


Edited 5/21/2004 12:07 am ET ET by georgialeebrown