High School Reunion?

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High School Reunion?
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 2:44am
Hi,

I feel this is a dumb question but I just wanted to ask anyway. Do boyfriends usually take their girlfriends to high school reunions? My boyfriend of 2 years has an upcoming 10-year reunion and expressed that he will be attending, but seemed to indicate that only *he* will be going. I hope he has fun catching up on old friends and being in that high school moment, but I was hoping I could go as well (I was thinking of inviting him to MY reunion if my school were to host one). I am not sure if I'm out of line here, wanting to go and meet his old friends, but on the other hand, I can understand him wanting to go by himself if he thinks I'd be a tag-along. If he has no intention of inviting me, my pushing the matter will do no good, but I was just curious.

BTW he did something like this last year too. He was a best man at his best friend's wedding (I knew the couple, albeit not too well), and each person was allowed to bring another guest, but he didn't invite me. Only two weeks before the wedding when I mentioned it in a conversation he asked, "Would you like to go?" I was a little hurt at the time because I had to basically push him into inviting me, so I want to make sure I don't repeat the same thing this time...


Edited 10/1/2004 2:46 am ET ET by pindarsapho

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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 1:06pm
It's a matter of what works for the couple. My bf went with me to mine and I went with him to his. Some people vow never to take their spouse/SO and others the spouse/SO has no desire to go as they don't know anyone and don't want to sit around.

Since this happened with the wedding, if I were you, I just let him go and leave it at that.


Carrie

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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 2:03pm

There are many individuals who prefer to go to high school or other school reunions without their partners or spouses. It is a journey back in time for them and they are better able to do that alone. Others, take their partners along and enjoy it. There is no set rule. In your case, it is important to opent his matter up and simply discuss it with him clearly. He may have no idea about your feelings about it. Don't blame him, simply ask him if he prefers to go to this alone? If he does, ask him why? Listen. Let yourself understand what he is feeling and don't take it personally. It does not mean that he does not care for you if he does not want to include you. If you feel left out, let him know, but also understand where he's coming from. You said that whe you told him you wanted to go to the wedding he didn't seem to know you wanted to. The heart of all good relationships is being open and honest with each other about your feelings, (without blaming) and then really listening to the other and respecting his feelings as well.


All good wishes.

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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 2:35pm
Thanks itwinflame and drshoshanna for your advice. I will go ahead and talk to him, and remember to not take it personally, whatever his answer may be. :) Thank you again.
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 4:30pm

I, myself havent had the experience of going to a reunion, but If i went, I probably wouldnt want my significant other going with me...unless we went to the same class and graduated in relaivley closs years. Other wise, they will not know anyone and i wouldnt be interested in babysitting.


So, for me, its not a matter of not wanting