HIS ATTENTION HOG OF A SISTER!

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Registered: 08-28-2008
HIS ATTENTION HOG OF A SISTER!
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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 1:27pm
My boyfriend and I started dating over a year ago
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 2:06pm

Unless he can set up a boundary between him and his sister and put you first, he is not a person who is yet able to build a healthy relationship where he knows what his priorities are. Often there are family dynamics which prevent a person from becoming fully available to a partner. The ties in the family are possessive and encroach in ways that make it difficult for someone new to come in and get the attention and respect they deserve. It sounds like this is what is happening here. So, if I were you, I'd let him know that this kind of arrangement doesn't work for you. He is not available for a relationship, because he is so involved with his sister. If he can pull away, and treat you in a way you'd like, then you can go forward. If not, find someone else who is truly free to create something that would be good for both of you.


Best wishes,

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Fri, 08-29-2008 - 2:44am

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Fri, 08-29-2008 - 2:23pm

Welcome to the board dmsduemig27,


You've gotten two great responses to your post.