his ex keeps calling!

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Registered: 01-02-2004
his ex keeps calling!
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Fri, 01-02-2004 - 2:15pm
My boyfriend continues to speak to his ex. He and I moved in with each other shortly after they broke up. After six months we agreed we moved to fast and decided to stay together but from a different address. He began calling his ex and they open up the lines of communication. I didn't like it. He felt he had unresolved issues, and he did. Any how, he came to the conclusion that he is over her and wants our relationship to work. He agreed not to call her but will not tell her to stop calling him. She calls a few times a week. I don't like it. The only time we argue is about her. It's hurting me but he feels there is nothing wrong b/c they are just friends. I'm confused and hurt about this.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 7:00pm
I don't blame you for being hurt. He doesn't want her to see him as the *bad guy* by telling her not to call. He is putting her feelings above your and above the relationship. Or he likes the attention and the flattery of her constantly calling - his ego is being stroked. Too bad he can't be honest with her and tell him there is no future, that being friends isn't the best thing for his new relationship, etc.


Carrie

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Registered: 06-15-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 8:55pm
maybe they both sincerely want to be just friends? I don't remember seeing anywhere on your post that she is trying to get him back. Maybe they had a good friendship but just could not see eye to eye on a romantic level?