His family don't like me
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His family don't like me
| Fri, 03-26-2004 - 6:25pm |
My boyfriends family don't like me and we still want to be together and i don't know what to do? They had caught me and him messing around the first time i met his family. then they were cool with me after that and now we have been dating 9 months and during that time his family kept going back and forth saying they were cool with me one minute then start tripping the next. so they say im a bad influence on him. so now they told him to stay away from me but we still want to be together but his family won't let him be with me? i don't know what to do because i love him.

I guess if you want to be with him, and his family features prominently in his life, you'll have to try to get along with them, too. You shouldn't have to completely change who you are, and maybe he doesn't want to be like them, either. However, for the sake of consideration and to keep the peace, I guess I would just say, don't flaunt the differences in their faces. Sometimes information is going to leak-out anyway, or maybe they just have it in for you, but I would do the best you can to get along peaceably with them. Best wishes.
What does he want? How old is he? If he's of age and wants to be with you and not living under their roof, they don't have much say in whether or not he sees you..... however, if he's still living under their roof, underage, then he short of lying, he needs to follow their rules.
You can try to get to know them better.... go to dinner at their house once a week - spend Sat or Sun afternoon with his family, as a family - not the two of you sneaking off to be alone. Watch movies as a family, follow their rules, behave, etc.
Carrie
Edited 3/28/2004 3:59 pm ET ET by babykoolaid01