His friend hates me cause im not pretty enough

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Registered: 10-05-2011
His friend hates me cause im not pretty enough
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Wed, 10-05-2011 - 12:15am

Hi there, ive been seeing a super guy since May. It started out as a friends with benefits thing cause he just got out of a 6 year relationship. However, since we met we had spent every day together pretty much. We have great times together and have now met each other's parents and families. I adore this guy, but there's a problem, his best friend and roommate is upset at my man for dating me because he doesnt think i'm attractive or slim enough. I know im a bigger chick and not exactly the best looking person, but my guy keeps telling me he values personality more than anything. My guy definitely is attractive and his ex gf was incredibly good looking and thin as well. I'm just upset because my guy isnt the smartest and is kind of naive and may fall for his best friend's advice about finding someone else. Since his friend met me, our "sleepovers" at his place have ended. My guy comes to my place. His roomie also complains that my guy isnt around enough to hang out with him so ive lost a bit of our time together. What can i do to try and save this relationship. We are dating but my guy isnt over his ex yet so im not wanting to rush anything or make him upset by bringing up my insecurities!

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 10-05-2011 - 12:49am

Hi Janbear, I'm seeing

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-05-2011 - 1:00am
I totally agree with true.blue.shine.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 10-05-2011 - 10:02am

How on earth did you find out that his best friend doesn't think you're attractive? Was your guy stupid enough to tell you this?

"I'm just upset because my guy isnt the smartest and is kind of naive and may fall for his best friend's advice"

It doesn't take any amount of intelligence to decide who you're attracted to and who you're not attracted to.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 10-05-2011 - 12:12pm

Not exactly a mutual admiration society!

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sat, 10-08-2011 - 2:17pm
<< Most women, that is. >>

I loved that you added, that, lol.

<< A "secure" woman wouldn't waste her time with FWB's.....>>

I know that "FWB" sounds like cheap, sleazy sex and that's all.. but it doesn't have to be that way. I know someone now, a professional woman logging sometimes up to 80 hours a week at work and more, raking in the big bucks. She's secure, she just doesn't want a relationship. Heck, she doesn't have time for one. I was the same way in graduate school. No harm came from it, and there can be mutual respect and caring.

But I understand why you post that to women here, cause their situations are most often because of insecurity, and looking (and hoping) for love where it doesn't exist.

 

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sun, 10-09-2011 - 12:41am

Yes, mature intelligent secure women like your friend can handle FWB's........because they truly want nothing from him but some companionship and some sex.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sun, 10-09-2011 - 1:30am
Yep, my friend would rip them a new one if they were stupid enough to say something like that! LOL!