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| Mon, 03-31-2008 - 9:09am |
please help me -- should I send this email to my husband?
| Mon, 03-31-2008 - 9:09am |
please help me -- should I send this email to my husband?
Welcome to the board gardenergirl44,
Yes I think you should send this email to your husband. Obviously, this is something that is causing you a lot of stress and pain and that you need and deserve to know the answers to. Please send it to him. I don't believe that spouses should keep secrets from each other.
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Thank you very much for your thoughtful reply.
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But you don't feel that way. You are very concerned about this account and maybe there is something to what your gut is telling you. I don't know if you've been cheated on in the past and you're bringing in that baggage into your marriage or what, but I think it's important to address your insecurities with him. You have to talk about it from the point of view that you have a problem with insecurity. You can ask him to help you around it. Talk about you, you, you. I think that you do that, but those bits of I'm not accusing you, you yourself have said that you keep things from me to protect me, etc. Those are accusations. Stick to your topic of your insecurities. If he's empathetic, he's going to ask you how he can help.
I would not send this email to him. I would sit and talk to him about it face to face.
Keep us posted and good luck.
He used the account to solicit a prostitute for anal sex before we were married.
Welcome to the board gardenergirll44,
After this reply, I would say don't send that email as it is full of anguish. Instead try to bring it up in a light way, 'hey remember that account?
I like Itwinflame's suggestion...keep it light.
I'm curious about something though...was he using something like yahoo? My experience with those accounts is that if it's inactive for a time period you have to go through a lot of hoops to reactivate them. I know that I have some I created that I haven't looked at for years. I've never bothered to go back and cancel those accounts; I simply stopped using them. I've been in a committed relationship for years and I was still getting updates on some dating site I used. I couldn't figure out how to get them to quit updating me in spite of being inactive for years. They just were in my junk mail.
Do you know if his is (in)active or is the idea that it exists that's bothering you?
Its active alright.
Keep us posted.