How?

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Registered: 05-08-2008
How?
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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 1:18am

I been "talking" to this guy for a little over 5 months now. We've had our ups & downs. Hes 23 y/o and I'm 19 y/o. I live in NV & he lives in FL. He's in the AF; so as of right now he is deployed to Iraq. He'll be coming back home very soon (like sometime in June). We've been talking somewhat like everyday. We are not in love, but we do have strong feelings for each other. My parents know about him, they know we're getting serious. I want to see him when he gets back badly; & so does he.

My question is; how do I convince my parents to let me go visit him when he gets back? Like, what should I tell them to make them feel secure that I am going to be okay & all that.




Edited 5/18/2008 2:34 am ET by mslizbaby
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: mslizbaby
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 9:20am

Well you're 19, they don't have to "let" you do anything as you are an adult and can make your own decisions. If you just want to make the news easier for them that's another story, you could tell them that you're staying in your own hotel and that you will call them every night.

I'm not sure about a couple of things though.
1) I don't know why he's not visiting YOU? It sounds kind of sexist but for the most part a guy should be traveling long distance to visit a girl, especially if they haven't bet before. You don't indicate in your post if you've met him yet.
2) Why are you in something that after only five months has "ups and downs"?

If I were your parent I honestly wouldn't be convinced this was a good idea...

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: mslizbaby
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 1:05pm

Welcome to the board mslizbaby,


eggbertshootsfire gave you good advice and some good things to think about.

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In reply to: mslizbaby
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 2:04pm

Thank you cli-itwinflame & eggbertshootsfire!

I respect your advice&opinion (:

He actually wanted to visit me but with the short time he has because he is just coming back to the state for few weeks and getting sent back to Iraq & since I've never been to FL; I wanted to visit and have a short summer vacation.

Yes; I am 19 years old and yes its true I can make my own decision but I still do live under my parents roof so I want to respect them yano. I just wanted to have some opinion and advice from other members on here negative or positive from young adults to single parent. I just wanted to do it the right way & be honest with my parents up front; I just didnt know how to bring it up and drop the bomb.

Yeaah we shouldnt have any up & downs for just the in beginning stage; but I do believe not all relationships are perfect. I strongly believe since we are in a LDR and sometimes we do have miscommunication and misunderstanding, we have our up & downs but in the end we'll come through and actually have a discussion about it and as we go; we have learned about each other and actually gotten closer emotionally.

Please I am not saying you two are wrong or right. I respect both of your opinions and I truely appreciate it (: thank you once again !!! But what I wrote today was my opinion and please feel free to give me your opinion and advice! (:

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In reply to: mslizbaby
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 3:09pm
Have you ever done anything like this before, and do your parents generally support your decisions?
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In reply to: mslizbaby
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 3:56pm
I honestly never done this before; this is all new to me. This is also his first; we've never been in these type of situation before. & um, yeahh most of the time they are supportive. ahaha