How can I get him back???
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How can I get him back???
| Fri, 01-16-2004 - 5:35pm |
I am not sure what to do, I met this guy the middle of November and we made our relationship official and a few days before New Years I was unable to get in contact with him, he had gotten a hotel room in town with a few of his friends and since I was unable to get ahold of him I automatically assumed that our relationship was over and on New Years my best friends cousin kissed me and I kissed him back and the only reason why I did was because I was alone on New Years eve and I really did think that me and my boyfriend were finished. He called me the day after and told me that he had lost his cell phone and I had just gotten a new cell phone number so my number was in his phone and he did not know my number that is why he did not call me. A few days later guilt got the best of me and I told him what happened on New Years Eve and he told me that he wanted a few days to think about us and then he told me that he wanted to end it because he did not feel like he could trust me. IS there any one that can give me any advice on how to convince him that I can be trusted and that I have never cheated on anyone before and that if I had of known that he still wanted to be with me then I would have not let that happen I am not like that and I really do care for him.

I would say that both of you were wrong. You have not been with him that long though. Do you think he is telling the truth? The reason I ask, is because I had a similar situation only I was the one who "lost my phone".
Just step back, he may feel that this is a bad start for both of you. My guess is he will put this behind him and move on, he just needs time. Hang tight and give him whatever space he requests.
Another thougt ....... just because you don't connect with someone in T W O whole days doesn't equal a break up. Sounds like some hasty thinking on your part. I mean.....people do get busy, have jobs , friends and lives beyond their significant others you know. Can you really expect his life to "pause" until the next time you meet up? I'll bet that New Years kiss was out of spite, because you were mad at him.
I'm guessing you are young. (Under 20?) Because this whole situation you describe sounds very "High School". It also appears neither one of you are ready for a serious relationship.
yes i agree with this post. it sounds like you both made no effort to "find" each other. also - i don't understand, you had an "official" relationship and the ONLY way you could be in contact with each other was via cell phone? what about - regular phones, emails, work phones, friends, etc etc etc...
this just doesn't make sense.
Also - reguardsless of age - reguardless of financial status - or where you have been in life - from what you wrote - my take on it is still that you and your ex were acting immiturly , making lame excuses , and not owning up to what was really going on. That is just my OPINION!! And you asked for it.
Heather