how can i tell?

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Registered: 06-03-2003
how can i tell?
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Tue, 06-03-2003 - 7:31pm
Okay,see,my bf and I have been going out for 2 years in october,and well..here latley for the past about,8 months? he's been acting kind of strange,he's cheated on me about 6 times,and he doesnt think i know,and i dont want to break up with him because i love him,more than anything. and he just doesnt act happy any more,and i dont know what to do,i mean ill be 17 in two days,he's 16,yea i know were young to be in a relationship this long,but i need some help,im thnking about talking to his mom about all of this to see what to do,but i dont want to lose him,i know he's done me so so so wrong but i love him..and I need some help on what to do somebody please help..if you can help me email me or write back

Thanks alot,

Brittaney

agelkittie00@hotmail.com

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Registered: 05-06-2003
Wed, 06-04-2003 - 9:57am
I'm sorry, but if he's cheated on you 6 times and you're still with him because you "love" him, then you're getting what you deserve!

I know you're young, but honey, get some freakin' self-respect. You're ALLOWING him to degrade you, humiliate you, disrespect you, by ALLOWING him to cheat. Dump him. You're only 16, 17, whatever...there's plenty of time and plenty of men out there. Go find one that can keep his dick in his pants.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 11:19pm
He is a little boy. He is not a man. One day you are going to find a man. And he will make you feel like you are the only woman on the face of the earth. He will tell you how much he loves you, and you will never doubt it because he will show you that it is true. He will never be unfaithful, he will never put you down, he will never take your feelings for granted. When you are not feeling well, he will take care of you. When you are sad, he will hold you until you stop crying. He won't ever make you feel ashamed of yourself, won't ever make you wonder if you are good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, funny enough... And when you find that man you will realize that this boy you are with now never treated you the way he should have. You may feel like you never knew what love was before him, but, sweetie, you still don't know what love is. Because love doesn't hurt. And love doesn't make you doubt yourself. And love doesn't have a wandering eye.

It may hurt right now, but the longer you stay with him, the more you will doubt yourself. You should not be with anyone who makes you feel that way. Believe me when I say that this is not the guy you are going to make a life with. No matter how much you want to believe he is right now, the sooner you admit that to yourself, the sooner you will find the man who will show you what true love is.

April

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 7:55pm
because i love him to death,and ive found out from his sister,shes caught him,ive caught him,without him knowing we both have caught him,and i just i love him and care about him sooo much im just soo scared to be alone now,i think im not good enough for anybody,and im never gonna find someone,and when i do,they'll just cheat on me again
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 7:46pm
How did you find out he was cheating?

Tell me what you think the worst that will happen is if you break up with him. What is wrong with being single?

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 7:43pm
Yea..that is part of it,i am afraid to be alone,i dont know what'll happen..and i do ask him if he's happy,he says yea,so i really dont know what to do,i havent got a clue
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 7:38pm
It sounds to me like you have already lost him. He doesn't respect you. You don't really have a relationship. You should also be worried about STDs.

You and his mom can't stop him from cheating. He has to want to do that himself.

Talk to him about where the relationship is going and ask him if he is happy. Why stay in a relationship like this? Are you afraid to be alone?