how to deal with a crazy ex?

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Registered: 04-10-2007
how to deal with a crazy ex?
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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 1:35pm
Help! After almost four years my husbands ex wife has decided to start sending him cards for all the hoildays! Confusing how much she misses him and loves him! In the last 2 years that we have been married he has had to change his cell phone number twice. They have no children together and the marriage ended in bad terms. He has always told me about the phone calls but chose to throw the First card away unopened. We ended up reading it! Big mistake! I went off the deep end and accused him of keeping in touch. We worked all this out but suprise another card arrived yesterday. I don't want to be jealous but this is eating me alive! How do I handle this without being a crazy woman?
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Registered: 09-19-2002
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 2:20pm
What does she say in the cards and in the phone calls?
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Registered: 01-29-2003
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 2:40pm
Just throw it away and reject all her calls. It is not worth all the stress. How does she get his number? If you or he reads the cards or takes the calls it only starts the wheels turning in your mind.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 2:43pm

Welcome to the board lamc07,


You have to remember that your husband can't control the actions of his ex. He has changed his cell number twice because of her so it is clear it doesn't want contact with her. You could contact the police about a restraining order. Just send the cards back to her unopened saying "return to sender" or just throw them away unopened. Hang up the phone as soon as you hear her voice.


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Registered: 04-10-2007
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 2:46pm
just She loves him and missess him! we have chose not to open any more and just send them back to her.
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Registered: 04-10-2007
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 2:50pm
His daughter we think is giving her the numbers. My husband just doesn't answer her calls. And I know you are right but I still eats at me! Why all of a sudden her new found Love? We have decided to just start mailing the cards unopened back to her. Hopefully she will get the idea.
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Registered: 04-10-2007
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 2:52pm
I hate to sound like a drama queen but the police idea might not be bad! For all I know she could be driving by etc.
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Registered: 09-19-2002
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 3:10pm

I'm not sure the police are going to be able to help unless she has done something to break the law, like threaten you or damamge your property. Your husband might be able to get a restraining order, but again, it doesn't sound like (you haven't mentioned) that she has broken the law.

How old is his daughter? Is there any chance you can clue her in and/or ask her to stop giving out your husband's phone number?

Beyond telling the ex to bug off one final time (and hope that she actually listens this time), there's not much you can do but return the cards to sender and not answer the calls...

I'm really sorry you're in this situation. People are just crazy. At least your husband isn't getting sucked into the insanity.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 3:14pm

Welcome to the board lamc07,


Mark the cards, RETURN TO SENDER - maybe she will get the point.

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Registered: 04-10-2007
Wed, 04-11-2007 - 8:30am
Thanks everyone for allhte input!! My husband put the card s in an envelope and addressed to her and the return address he wrote MR. and Mrs. Hopefully now she will get the point! I am not so sure why it bothered me so bad. jealousy is an evil thing
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Registered: 04-10-2007
Wed, 04-11-2007 - 8:33am
Thanks for your input You are right. My husband put the cards in a envelope and wrote Mr. and Mrs. on the return address! Hopefully now she will get the point! I feel so silly for letting this get to me!