brittaney, you're not the only one who has done this... I am always amazed when women start out their post with a paragraph about how their guy is the most wonderful one in the world, they have such good traits, and they are so in love. Then they go on to list exactly why the guy just isn't that great, and it's the root of the problem.
Your guy isn't perfect, and at only six months into a relationship, I promise you'll start seeing more and more of it.
"he tells me I don't ever think and I don't use my brain." "he feels that I act like a spoiled brat"
Brittaney, are you SURE these are just little things you can work out? Those sound like very belittling statements, and I hope you understand that an apology does not take them away, especially if he continues. I would never say these things to someone I love and I would hope they never say them about me. You are young and it sounds as though you're still struggling with the finality of your parents' divorce. I understand that's making you anxious about your own relationship. But, isn't part of staying together finding the right person? You cannot expect something lasting to come from something that just isn't right, and it usually takes six months to a year and a half to know a person well enough to determine whether they are REALLY right or not.
Please be very careful not to sacrifice too much of yourself with this guy. If you lose yourself in him, you will lose the ability to see what's best for you and DO what's best for you. It's important not to blind yourself with how wonderful you think he is, make sure you always look at him with a set of new eyes. It's hard not to try to fit someone into the "Mr. Perfect" mold you make for him after only dating him a short while, but these upcoming months in your lives together will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know about him. Please keep your eyes open.
I also want to urge you to take advantage of a counselor on campus - this is something you may sorely regret when you have graduated and they're charging you huge amounts of money. Please find someone you can talk to, it's really worth it. I don't this stress you're going through to hurt your academic career (which is really important). Good luck.
2 Have you applied for financial aid? If your father makes too much money you may qualify for an 'extenuating circumstance' so that you can get out of your current living situation.
3 Your boyfriend is probably feelinig smothered. This isn't an axcuse to call you a spoiled brat but it is what he if feelinig.
4 You can not depend on other people to solve your problems. As you get older this will make more sense to you.
brittaney, you're not the only one who has done this... I am always amazed when women start out their post with a paragraph about how their guy is the most wonderful one in the world, they have such good traits, and they are so in love. Then they go on to list exactly why the guy just isn't that great, and it's the root of the problem.
Your guy isn't perfect, and at only six months into a relationship, I promise you'll start seeing more and more of it.
"he tells me I don't ever think and I don't use my brain."
"he feels that I act like a spoiled brat"
Brittaney, are you SURE these are just little things you can work out? Those sound like very belittling statements, and I hope you understand that an apology does not take them away, especially if he continues. I would never say these things to someone I love and I would hope they never say them about me. You are young and it sounds as though you're still struggling with the finality of your parents' divorce. I understand that's making you anxious about your own relationship. But, isn't part of staying together finding the right person? You cannot expect something lasting to come from something that just isn't right, and it usually takes six months to a year and a half to know a person well enough to determine whether they are REALLY right or not.
Please be very careful not to sacrifice too much of yourself with this guy. If you lose yourself in him, you will lose the ability to see what's best for you and DO what's best for you. It's important not to blind yourself with how wonderful you think he is, make sure you always look at him with a set of new eyes. It's hard not to try to fit someone into the "Mr. Perfect" mold you make for him after only dating him a short while, but these upcoming months in your lives together will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know about him. Please keep your eyes open.
I also want to urge you to take advantage of a counselor on campus - this is something you may sorely regret when you have graduated and they're charging you huge amounts of money. Please find someone you can talk to, it's really worth it. I don't this stress you're going through to hurt your academic career (which is really important). Good luck.
HI there brittaney,
You are 18.
Welcome to the board brittaney31,
I hope you really listen to eggbertshootsfire's advice to you as it is right on in my opinion.
Most people put their best foot forward when they get in a relationship for about the first 4-6 months, then their true colors come out.
1 Please see a counselor at school.
2 Have you applied for financial aid? If your father makes too much money you may qualify for an 'extenuating circumstance' so that you can get out of your current living situation.
3 Your boyfriend is probably feelinig smothered. This isn't an axcuse to call you a spoiled brat but it is what he if feelinig.
4 You can not depend on other people to solve your problems. As you get older this will make more sense to you.