How do I cope

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Registered: 07-30-2003
How do I cope
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 6:24pm
Two weeks ago my husband had an affair. He left to visit family and never got there. When his nephew called wondering where he was, I had no answer. I waited up until he got home and confronted him and he admitted it. We had just reconciled our 20 year marriage after almost breaking up. I had not been a very nice person and things went downhill, But the past 3 months had been wonderful, or so I thought. I cannot imagine this happening, and when I ask why he said he didn't know that it just did. We both want to work through this, but everyday I wake up with doubts. I know that I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. But instead of getting easier to deal with this thing is getting harder. I talk to my husband and he makes me feel better, at the moment. Then, when I am alone, I start thinking about all those things and just get depressed. I realized that it will take time, but why am I putting myself through all of this pain over and over??
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Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: debo40_99
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 9:33pm

I'm concerned that you said that you've been putting yourself through pain "over and over."

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Registered: 07-30-2003
In reply to: debo40_99
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 8:36am
Thank you for your reply. You have put in writing everything I knew already. I just needed to hear it from someone else. I will begin today finding a good marriage counselor, providing my husband wants this, or a good therapist if he doesn't. Again thank you. God bless