How do I feel comfortable at his place?
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How do I feel comfortable at his place?
| Thu, 05-06-2004 - 5:01pm |
My boyfriend lives with his mom's ex husband and it is more of a roomate situation verses step father and son relationship. However the ex-husband is jewish and is very strict with his religion, i.e. Kosher everything. My boyfriend is not this- but trys to follow the religion to be curdious. My question is actually two parts...first off being I never eat at his apartment because of either their not being food (two bachelors), or it being Kosher and its fish (not a fish fan). Well I spilled my non kosher food one time and ever since then I dont even bring over food because of the aruguement that happened. So- I never eat there, or even get water. My boyfriend insists that I am just "picky" and don't like the Kosher food...but its just that I don't like most of the food they cook (I've even tried it be sure). Second part of this question is that it seems like everything I do is wrong, i.e.- I talk too loud, I don't shut the door, I don't put my stuff in the right place, I don't chat with his step-dad enough...and the list goes on. I try so hard to be respectful and also social but I am at my wits end!!!! My boyfriend and I got into a huge arguement today and I just have been sitting here trying to figure out how to find a solution to this!! How can I feel comfortable? Is it me??
On another note- I am very hospitable at my apartment, I buy him foods he likes, cook for him, always keep my place clean, let him be himself. So this is just an issue of his place.
HELP!!!
- Holly in CA frusterated with boyfriend!!!
On another note- I am very hospitable at my apartment, I buy him foods he likes, cook for him, always keep my place clean, let him be himself. So this is just an issue of his place.
HELP!!!
- Holly in CA frusterated with boyfriend!!!

I understand that they aren't supposed to have non-Kosher food touch anything where Kosher food is prepared, but I think that having an argument over some spilled food is over-reacting. Also, it's wrong for them to critisize everything you do. Again - they aren't being good hosts.
It sounds like there are some issues over there that may or may not have anything to do with you, but I don't think the issues are your fault. It probably has to do with the history that they have.