how do i get him to trust me
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how do i get him to trust me
| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 3:04pm |
My boyfriend and I have had a topsy turvy type of relationship. We started out as friends about 5 1/2 years ago and developed into best friends which then developed into a relationship. Being that we were 12 when we first met and only 15 when we got together we just weren't ready for the seriousness of commitment of a relationship. We didn't have the wisdom to understand what a real relationship was all about. Well, there was a lack of communication and just a lot that was lacking but in the long run I was unfaithful, losing his trust and his friendship for awhile. We once again became friends but were nothing more but after 1 1/2 years of being apart things started to be like they once were. He pushed for us to date in which I wasn't so sure about at first but now I am glad that we did because I have fallen in love with him all over again and he makes me so happy. Well, anyways the problem is that he can't seem to trust me. He feels that I'm secretive and sneaky and I could easily cheat on him with no remorse and just keep it from him or just do it if the opportunity arose especially since in my past i've never been faithful to my partners. The thing is that for the first time I have actually made up my mind that I wouldn't cheat on him, not even that but I don't even find any kind of urge or temptation to be with anyone else. It's frustrating that he doesn't trust me because for the first time I am trying to be faithful and he's constantly insecure of the situation and thinking that I have or I'm going to cheat. Plus, he tends to bring up my past of being with guys, that I'm not so proud of, i'm ashamed of and it hurts to think that he thinks less of me because of it and throws it in my face proving his point, but not realizing the hurt he causes me. But even so I love him and I want more than anything for him to trust me and to realize that I'm changing my ways even if he thinks so or not and I don't want to be with anyone else. Please help.

Carrie