How do I get over this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-13-2008
How do I get over this?
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Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:55am

I'm a 39 year old woman, divorced after a 12 year marriage with three kids, ages 5, 7 and 10.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2007
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 9:44am

sorry you are going through this, it sucks, but it will get better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-13-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 10:01am

thank you...obviously a little cyber 'tough love' is in order.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 1:36pm

Welcome to the board mfmiami,


I think you got good advice from sassisizz.


Here's some reading material to consider:


How to Get Over Your Breakup - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21181.1


Relationship Grieving Process - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22985.1


Zen of Doing Nothing - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21173.1





angels

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2007
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 3:19pm

Good for you, it will get better, you deserve better and so do your children...And yes, you will find someone that values your children as much as you do, it just wasn't for this guy (doesn't make him right/wrong) just what he came to realize.


Read some of the material that Carrie suggested, I know it helped me tremendously when i went through my breakup last year, if it hadn't have been for her, Sheri, Sandra and some of the other people on the boards, it would have taken me a lot longer to heal, they helped open my eyes to a lot of things.....


Good luck, post when you need to, it does help ...

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2003
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:26pm
I'm so sorry to read about your breakup. I was a single mom and I wanted to share with you that I found a man who fell in love with all three of us. He doesn't have his own children, but he has fully taken on mine (their bio dad is still in the picture.)
It sounds like you are learning from your experiences...you never had a true break from men. It's time to see what exciting things life has in store for you and your kids, don't you think? Give all of you guys some time to heal before you bring in someone new into the picture. Before I got married I used to hang at the Dating Single Moms Board. There are some great women there.
Hugs.