How do I get past this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2008
How do I get past this?
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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 7:12pm

I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 7:18pm
I would tell him that you feel that you need a break.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 8:45pm

Welcome to the board rylee79,


I gotta say, I totally agree with americajin.

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Registered: 05-08-2008
Wed, 05-14-2008 - 11:33pm
What would be really nice is if you found a guy to date who is not part of this social circle so that you have no memories or broken hearts about Patty to deal with.
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Registered: 12-19-2007
Thu, 05-15-2008 - 12:12pm

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 05-15-2008 - 2:43pm

Have you told your bf that his relationship with Patty and behavior regarding her upsets you?


Does he realize that his behavior is inappropriate? I am thinking he doesn't.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-15-2008 - 4:27pm

It sounds as though it's best for your boyfriend and his ex not to have contact right now. She is his ex. Why not keep it that way? Why are they continuing this relationship when it is so unsettling for you? Sometimes it is possible to keep a "friendship" going with an ex, and often it isn't. If it upsets the present partner, then out of respct and consideration, the best thing is to let it go. Tell him how you feel about this. Tell him that it is an on-going source of upset for you and that he has to choose between the two of you. If he can't choose you, then this is something you should be aware of and make an appropriate and healthy choice for yourself about how to proceede.


Best wishes,