how do I handel this
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how do I handel this
| Wed, 09-08-2004 - 1:39pm |
my boyfriend and i have been 2gether for 4 yrs. we recently seperated because I lied to him about going through his phone and calling a girl he had been talking to. He claims I was wrong but while we were seperated he spent all his time with this girl, she even stayed at our home. we are now living in my one bedroom apt with our daughter and my daughter from a previous relationship. I found his email open & yes I read it. There were emails in there requesting oral sex, which he gets from me on a regular basis. He was willing to pay women. How do I handle this? Should I confront him? There are other things too-he is always chatting with women on dating sites too, even after I have told him how disrespectful I think that is. I need help.

YOU have been with this man for 4 Years...and didn't have a clue about his...err...solicitations? This doesn't ring right! !
What about the 2 girls (your daughters) who are being exposed to this nonsense? What kind of an impression do you think they're getting? As much as you think you're protecting them, I'm sure the girls aren't stupid?
Pianoguy doesn't think you need help....YOU NEED 3 pairs of track shoes! One for each of the 2 girls and the 3rd for yourself. Your b/f's sexual desires (and internet) escapades are only going to get worse! Use the shoes...and RUN LIKE HELL in the opposite direction!
Your b/f doesn't (and probably will NEVER) respect you....but there's no reason why YOU CAN'T "RESPECT YOURSELF?" And if you can't do that...what's wrong with keeping your daughters away from this maniac?
Pianoguy
You need to leave this guy. What you did was right and wrong. You was curious about the other girl and you got your answer. but you made it worse when you told him what you did. Men never want to be found out. What you need to do is leave him. You have so much evidence of his cheating that you dont even have to leave a message behind to let him know that you are leaving. Just get out of the relationship now so that you dont hurt youself and those girls anymore. He's not worth it. And when he wants you back you can either take him back and go through the same thing again or just leave him in the dust you choose. Think about it, how did you meet this guy? If you met him while he was involved with another person then he will definitely do it to you. So leave him cheating behind hes not worth a sxybiatch. ok