How do I make him understand how I feel?
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How do I make him understand how I feel?
| Sat, 09-25-2004 - 11:12pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for close to 4 years and I have 3 children with him. I love him more than I could ever express but lately it dont seem like he feels the same way anymore. It all started fourth of July weekend when we went to the fireworks and he ran into an old friend who just happened to be a female. He never once introduced us or his kids. As a matter of fact, he acted as if he didnt know us. I turned my back for one second and the next thing I knew he was halfway across the park with her. When I confronted him about it, he said he lost track of who he was with and never offering an appology but instead saying I over reacted. Since then he always seems to have an excuse as to why I cant go with him somewhere. For instance, he went to his cousins wedding reception alone saying he didnt want the kids left home alone (oldest is 13. But come to find out he ended up meeting a mutual friend at the bar. Even going to the store he manages to find excuses. I have yet to meet most of his family even though I have known him for 14 years. I feel as if he is embarassed to be seen with me. The only time he even really touches me is when he wants sex. I need some advice because I really dont know what to do. I have tried talking to him but I cant get him to see my side of things. I love him so much and I really want this to work but how can I find out his true feelings? Is he just using me and staying because of the kids? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

just for the record: it may have been RUDE of him not to introduce you to his "friend" at the fireworks. but *that* incident - in and of itsself - is not enuf to make some kind of judgement call here on his behavior. some people just lack basic manners.
however, it does sound as if you two might benefit from couple's counseling. there is a definate lack of communications here. would he be agreeable?